This obviously isn't for everyone, but the solution I use is: my own DNS server at home + wg to access it when I'm away.

I was considering setting something similar with Tailscale, I have a TS exitnode that sits on a VM alongside my VyOS/home router.

I'd tempted to setup a DNS Forwarder up on that with Ad-Blocking then use Quad9 as upstream, then just have Tailscale be always on.

How's the latency when you're away?

nextdns. I wonder why people use anything else at all